I didn't want this turned into an argument, thank you to everyone that has stood up for me but really its fine, as I said I welcome the different opinions it gives me a wider perspective.
My mum has booked and paid for his flight over he is coming on his 31st birthday 12th Septrmber. By all accounts it was difficult to book a one way ticket and that was the earliest they could get. But at least I have a date and time to prepare myself.
Cook him a nice roast pork dinner to make him feel really welcome!
I didn't want this turned into an argument, thank you to everyone that has stood up for me but really its fine, as I said I welcome the different opinions it gives me a wider perspective.
My mum has booked and paid for his flight over he is coming on his 31st birthday 12th Septrmber. By all accounts it was difficult to book a one way ticket and that was the earliest they could get. But at least I have a date and time to prepare myself.
Cook him a nice roast pork dinner to make him feel really welcome!
My day has been shit but this has made me smile :-)
There were an awful lot of ambulances and police cars near my house last night - I hope that wasn't Sadiejanes. How long do we leave it before going round to hers and digging up the patio to find her (or him)?
I haven't met him yet no one has, he arrived last night and she called me this morning to tell me about it. My brother has gone away for a few days so hasn't yet had the pleasure. I will probably meet him on Monday.
The thing that confuses me is that my mum is talking to his brother on phone and online, she is also friends with his cousin, and some of his friends, would Saif really let her make these friendships if he is planning on leaving her?
"The name Saif is a Muslim baby name. In Muslim the meaning of the name Saif is: Sword. Saber.
People with this name have a deep inner desire to use their abilities in leadership, and to have personal independence. They would rather focus on large, important issues, and delegate the details.
People with this name are competent, practical, and often obtain great power and wealth. They tend to be successful in business and commercial affairs, and are able to achieve great material dreams. Because they often focus so strongly on business and achievement, they may neglect their private lives and relationships."
SJ. Hope it goes well but there is an advantage to being together for 2 years and there are of course advantages to bed and board. Of course my concerns might be unfounded. But you won't be able to tell for sure for years
I haven't met him yet no one has, he arrived last night and she called me this morning to tell me about it. My brother has gone away for a few days so hasn't yet had the pleasure. I will probably meet him on Monday.
The thing that confuses me is that my mum is talking to his brother on phone and online, she is also friends with his cousin, and some of his friends, would Saif really let her make these friendships if he is planning on leaving her?
If he's cold and calculating, and they're in on it/seen it all before why would he care ?
I read this thread with interest but I need to remind myself it's real life for you, with very real consequences. I truly hope it all works out and when you meet him he's a decent bloke who quickly wins you over by showing you his Derek Hales tattoo after revealing himself to be a lifelong Addick.
I haven't met him yet no one has, he arrived last night and she called me this morning to tell me about it. My brother has gone away for a few days so hasn't yet had the pleasure. I will probably meet him on Monday.
The thing that confuses me is that my mum is talking to his brother on phone and online, she is also friends with his cousin, and some of his friends, would Saif really let her make these friendships if he is planning on leaving her?
If he's cold and calculating, and they're in on it/seen it all before why would he care ?
I read this thread with interest but I need to remind myself it's real life for you, with very real consequences. I truly hope it all works out and when you meet him he's a decent bloke who quickly wins you over by showing you his Derek Hales tattoo after revealing himself to be a lifelong Addick.
I met him, briefly however, my husband refused to go in so I had to be quick.
I knocked at the door at just after 11am and my mum said he was still in bed. She went and woke him up and said I was there.
He emerged a few minutes later, first impression was he looks very young younger than I was expecting, second impression was that he needs a good meal he is so thin looks like I could break him if I pushed him. Then he smiled and his teeth were enormous, with his enormous teeth extra long eye lashes and his bed head he looked like donkey from shrek!
Looks aside, he never came across as I wanted him too. I wanted him to be cocky or arrogant, rude and standoffish, or at least a bit smarmy. But he was polite, he kept smiling looked me in the eye and seemed very pleasant. He did seem nervous but in a nerdy way, if I met him under different circumstances I would have said he was a nice guy. I am not under that illusion and I still don't trust him, I know that he is probably putting in an act, but it is a good one.
My fear of him using her to get into England then doing one, is very much still there but it will really hit her hard if he does. My fear of him becoming a controlling woman beater however, is now gone as he is tall but very slight, he looks like he is made of cardboard. I am still worried that he has HIV or something similar as the stupid woman is having unprotected sex. But I think as he isn't as good looking as she thinks he is (photos are deceptive) maybe he was just grateful for the interest?
I have no idea really how this will pan out, but my mother today seemed happier than I've ever seen her. That is priceless, even if it only lasts a few weeks its nice to see her happy.
I understand that you want your mum to be happy Sadie but if your suspicions are correct then you gotta be prepared to pick her up from being just as low. Must be a horrible situation and I hope it works out for you and your mum in the end.
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I think we are all on tenterhooks with this one, hope it turns out okay SJ.
How long do we leave it before going round to hers and digging up the patio to find her (or him)?
The thing that confuses me is that my mum is talking to his brother on phone and online, she is also friends with his cousin, and some of his friends, would Saif really let her make these friendships if he is planning on leaving her?
People with this name have a deep inner desire to use their abilities in leadership, and to have personal independence. They would rather focus on large, important issues, and delegate the details.
People with this name are competent, practical, and often obtain great power and wealth. They tend to be successful in business and commercial affairs, and are able to achieve great material dreams. Because they often focus so strongly on business and achievement, they may neglect their private lives and relationships."
I read this thread with interest but I need to remind myself it's real life for you, with very real consequences. I truly hope it all works out and when you meet him he's a decent bloke who quickly wins you over by showing you his Derek Hales tattoo after revealing himself to be a lifelong Addick.
I knocked at the door at just after 11am and my mum said he was still in bed. She went and woke him up and said I was there.
He emerged a few minutes later, first impression was he looks very young younger than I was expecting, second impression was that he needs a good meal he is so thin looks like I could break him if I pushed him. Then he smiled and his teeth were enormous, with his enormous teeth extra long eye lashes and his bed head he looked like donkey from shrek!
Looks aside, he never came across as I wanted him too. I wanted him to be cocky or arrogant, rude and standoffish, or at least a bit smarmy. But he was polite, he kept smiling looked me in the eye and seemed very pleasant. He did seem nervous but in a nerdy way, if I met him under different circumstances I would have said he was a nice guy. I am not under that illusion and I still don't trust him, I know that he is probably putting in an act, but it is a good one.
My fear of him using her to get into England then doing one, is very much still there but it will really hit her hard if he does. My fear of him becoming a controlling woman beater however, is now gone as he is tall but very slight, he looks like he is made of cardboard. I am still worried that he has HIV or something similar as the stupid woman is having unprotected sex. But I think as he isn't as good looking as she thinks he is (photos are deceptive) maybe he was just grateful for the interest?
I have no idea really how this will pan out, but my mother today seemed happier than I've ever seen her. That is priceless, even if it only lasts a few weeks its nice to see her happy.
Work hard at the bits you can impact upon, and the things you can't, well sometimes you've just got to roll with it.
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Did they meet online then? I can't remember how it started.
can we be in the audience a lifer day out
For some reason I keep imaging a Tunisian with an Eddie Murphy voice, just doesn't feel right.
What would the headline be?... My mum married a donkey from Africa who's Barely out of nappies! Lol
DNA
lie detectors
have to be in there some where *)