Have a hobby that is absolutely nothing to do with her (as well as going to football) Don't forget your mates - you need to go out for beers regularly Buy a dishwasher if you can afford one Buy a pair of sunglasses or get very, very good at having a quick glance around you when the sun is out...
1. Never tell a lie, not even a white one. 2. Let her have her opinions. 3. Always remember she's not your possession. 4. Never play down or make jokes about menstruation. 5. Be the best friend she's ever had.
I'm not your average macho geezer so realize these rules can be tough for some. I wish you everything you wish yourself. Have a great day.
Tell me, how long have you been married?
With those values you may as well add ;
6. let her walk all over you and treat you like a c*** - because that's what will happen with that attitude.
My third marriage ended three years ago when my wife left me for another (more macho) man...same with the first two, so maybe I should have applied these rules back then. My present gf never lies to me, isn't opinionated, spends most of her time with me, doesn't flirt with other men and is definately the best friend I've ever had.
ps. All three ex wives have asked to come back.
I rest my case, m'lud.
You have no case, as in my three marriages I was a selfish self opinionated arsehole.
Nice edit.
Was editing as you were posting, but you can be the winner if you like as I'm off to do some DIY stuff.
My present gf never lies to me, isn't opinionated, spends most of her time with me, doesn't flirt with other men and is definately the best friend I've ever had.
My guidelines that you so thoughtlessly damned were born out of my f*ck ups.
Are you sure your present gf isn't actually a bloke
that was going to be my advice^
She is quite blokey...interests are football, tennis, cars, playing drums etc.
6. let her walk all over you and treat you like a c*** - because that's what will happen with that attitude.
If you read the "Kit car" thread I think you'll find that my foolhardy rules have worked quite well. A gift like that is evidence enough that I've got it right this time.
I wish I had followed the advice I am about to give you. However trust me, what I am about to say will give your marriage a chance, but it ought to be an absolute priority. Every day, and an appropriate time, say about 5.20pm, both of you sit down together uninterrupted with a cup of tea. Then spend 20 minutes, each of you telling the other about their day. However boring your partners day sounds, or yours sounds to them, still listen, pay attention, take an interest. Never waver from this routine, ever.
I wish I had followed the advice I am about to give you. However trust me, what I am about to say will give your marriage a chance, but it ought to be an absolute priority. Every day, and an appropriate time, say about 5.20pm, both of you sit down together uninterrupted with a cup of tea. Then spend 20 minutes, each of you telling the other about their day. However boring your partners day sounds, or yours sounds to them, still listen, pay attention, take an interest. Never waver from this routine, ever.
was going to ask why 5.20pm but then I realised there's nothing on tv at that time. neighbours starts at half five and the chase is a pile of shit.
I wish I had followed the advice I am about to give you. However trust me, what I am about to say will give your marriage a chance, but it ought to be an absolute priority. Every day, and an appropriate time, say about 5.20pm, both of you sit down together uninterrupted with a cup of tea. Then spend 20 minutes, each of you telling the other about their day. However boring your partners day sounds, or yours sounds to them, still listen, pay attention, take an interest. Never waver from this routine, ever.
I just shuddered at the thought of having to undertake this 20 minutes of torture.
I wish I had followed the advice I am about to give you. However trust me, what I am about to say will give your marriage a chance, but it ought to be an absolute priority. Every day, and an appropriate time, say about 5.20pm, both of you sit down together uninterrupted with a cup of tea. Then spend 20 minutes, each of you telling the other about their day. However boring your partners day sounds, or yours sounds to them, still listen, pay attention, take an interest. Never waver from this routine, ever.
I just shuddered at the thought of having to undertake this 20 minutes of torture.
I wish I had followed the advice I am about to give you. However trust me, what I am about to say will give your marriage a chance, but it ought to be an absolute priority. Every day, and an appropriate time, say about 5.20pm, both of you sit down together uninterrupted with a cup of tea. Then spend 20 minutes, each of you telling the other about their day. However boring your partners day sounds, or yours sounds to them, still listen, pay attention, take an interest. Never waver from this routine, ever.
was going to ask why 5.20pm but then I realised there's nothing on tv at that time. neighbours starts at half five and the chase is a pile of shit.
Jesus Seth, I can't think of anything more painful!
Yeah but. You may have to endure talk about something really boring to you, but has exercised her mind and actions that day. And she has to listen to your equally boring drivel about cancelled trains, and the office idiot and so on. People can have stressful days, and need to unload and share, even if their agendas differ. Who knows it may even be a positive experience. Or you can both bottle it all up I suppose.
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Oh, and if you want something that's important to you, wait until you've given her one before asking
She is quite blokey...interests are football, tennis, cars, playing drums etc.
2. Convince her why that job is perfect for her
;o)
Every day, and an appropriate time, say about 5.20pm, both of you sit down together uninterrupted with a cup of tea. Then spend 20 minutes, each of you telling the other about their day. However boring your partners day sounds, or yours sounds to them, still listen, pay attention, take an interest.
Never waver from this routine, ever.
You give and she takes.
Seriously, give and take.
Get a grip eh.
You may have to endure talk about something really boring to you, but has exercised her mind and actions that day.
And she has to listen to your equally boring drivel about cancelled trains, and the office idiot and so on.
People can have stressful days, and need to unload and share, even if their agendas differ. Who knows it may even be a positive experience.
Or you can both bottle it all up I suppose.