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  • JohnBoyUK
    JohnBoyUK Posts: 9,017
    jose said:
    Sounds like good catting.
    We humans simply don't have the dimensions to understand them.
    I think you're right tbh.  He didn't look at all distressed when he came in apparently.
  • BoPeepAddick
    BoPeepAddick Posts: 158
    After the lose of my last dog ‘Solly’ who I had for 12 years, I never thought I would or wanted another dog, losing him was unbearable. But my wife and sons have worked on me, and 8 weeks ago Pepper joined our family, she is 4, a Frenchie, a rescue and we have no idea of her previous history, other than our Vet thinks she has had 2 litters before she was 2 - she of lovely other than when we leave her alone at home, massive damage to carpet, doors, bed linen etc. We have and are continually doing things to calm her down but so far without any success, when we are home she is fine, and is only left a home for 3 hours a couple of times a week. Any suggestions!!!
  • IdleHans
    IdleHans Posts: 10,957
    edited October 3
    After the lose of my last dog ‘Solly’ who I had for 12 years, I never thought I would or wanted another dog, losing him was unbearable. But my wife and sons have worked on me, and 8 weeks ago Pepper joined our family, she is 4, a Frenchie, a rescue and we have no idea of her previous history, other than our Vet thinks she has had 2 litters before she was 2 - she of lovely other than when we leave her alone at home, massive damage to carpet, doors, bed linen etc. We have and are continually doing things to calm her down but so far without any success, when we are home she is fine, and is only left a home for 3 hours a couple of times a week. Any suggestions!!!
    No suggestions other than a comfy crate for when you go out. But congratulations for taking on a needy hound. I'm sure she'll settle down as her comfort levels increase. She's evidently been through a lot and will need time to gain confidence. I suspect the 3-3-3 rule will apply to her, and she's not quite there yet. I expect @T_C_E will be along in a bit to offer more informed advice.

  • sam3110
    sam3110 Posts: 21,242
    There's a full blown separation anxiety training and process you can go through. Google Julie Naismith, we used her advice and techniques to get our Pepper to go from not being able to be left for more than 30 seconds to being able to be left alone for up to 5 hours if needed
  • Billy_Mix
    Billy_Mix Posts: 2,707
    After the lose of my last dog ‘Solly’ who I had for 12 years, I never thought I would or wanted another dog, losing him was unbearable. But my wife and sons have worked on me, and 8 weeks ago Pepper joined our family, she is 4, a Frenchie, a rescue and we have no idea of her previous history, other than our Vet thinks she has had 2 litters before she was 2 - she of lovely other than when we leave her alone at home, massive damage to carpet, doors, bed linen etc. We have and are continually doing things to calm her down but so far without any success, when we are home she is fine, and is only left a home for 3 hours a couple of times a week. Any suggestions!!!
    Mitigating separation anxiety can be a long old process but as with most things dog-training, repetition, repetition and repetition are essential.
    Is she only upset when she's left totally alone or does she show signs when one of the household goes out?
    Does she follow any/one of you around indoors?
    To get Pepper used to the fact that you always come back after 'leaving her', try the "flitting game".
    As often as is possible leave the room Pepper is in, ideally shut the door behind you so she is separated, even just for a short while.  When you return to the space Pepper is in, don't greet her or make a fuss.
    Come and go from her space as much as you can.  The aim is to normalise that the separation is temporary and you always come back and it's just no big deal.
    With our pooch, I spent time sitting on my doorstep or in my car working on my laptop to familiarise doggo with being alone and getting used to my return.
    Don't expect swift results.  It is vanishingly unlikely that the SA will just switch off.
    Gradually build up the time you're apart
    A comfy safe space, like a crate can be helpful if it's smthn she's used to.
    Good luck
  • KBslittlesis
    KBslittlesis Posts: 8,588
    edited October 8

    We had to say goodbye to one of our barn cats Ripley. She started snoring in May & after various meds & thoughts of what it might be it turned out to be a mass growing in her head behind her eye. She spent all spring/summer with me in my She Shed being hand fed & her every whim catered for. But ultimately we had to let her go. It never ever gets any easier 😞 
  • ElfsborgAddick
    ElfsborgAddick Posts: 29,024

    We had to say goodbye to one of our barn cats Ripley. She started snoring in May & after various meds & thoughts of what it might be it turned out to be a mass growing in her head behind her eye. She spent all spring/summer with me in my She Shed being hand fed & her every whim catered for. But ultimately we had to let her go. It never ever gets any easier 😞 
    No more pain for a beautiful little cat.
  • KBslittlesis
    KBslittlesis Posts: 8,588
    Weirdly Elf's I don't think she was in pain. But the mass started to push against her eye in the last couple of days so that was the decision made. I will miss my little cricket mate, not sure the other cats will have the patience for TMS xx
  • LoOkOuT
    LoOkOuT Posts: 10,853
    Sorry for your loss @KBslittlesis
  • JohnBoyUK
    JohnBoyUK Posts: 9,017
    So sorry @KBslittlesis, rest easy Ripley.
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  • DaveMehmet
    DaveMehmet Posts: 21,590
    Sorry to hear that @KBslittlesis it's never easy losing a pet.
  • Rizzo
    Rizzo Posts: 6,430
    Really sorry for your loss @KBslittlesis
  • T_C_E
    T_C_E Posts: 16,418
    So sorry to read this @KBslittlesis
  • Fanny Fanackapan
    Fanny Fanackapan Posts: 18,735
    Sleep tight, Ripley x
  • ElfsborgAddick
    ElfsborgAddick Posts: 29,024
    Weirdly Elf's I don't think she was in pain. But the mass started to push against her eye in the last couple of days so that was the decision made. I will miss my little cricket mate, not sure the other cats will have the patience for TMS xx

    I hope that is the case <3