A lot has happened since the last post put on here.
Some positive things have happened for myself and I returned to work last Wednesday. It has felt like a big step in the right direction.
I just want to offer some nice words and hope I can be of value to anyone that reads this.
I think a lot of people may have experienced some form of serious injury to themselves, or something particularly bad may have happened to family member and or a close one.
I can only speak from my own personal experience.
It is very hard for everyone. It is awful.
It can be a long long road back.
I certainly have not had the worst injury in the world. It still isn't over....but I think and I believe that I'm going to eventually be ok. I have enough reason to believe this.
There are worse things that can happen.
The odds are also in my favour now to make a complete and full recovery. Anxiety has trebled...but it is slowly decreasing and it's starting to fade away.
Mentally, there is a lot of negative residue that is still a bit hard to wipe off.
Being in these kind of states can scare the absolute hell out of you. It can make you irrational. It can make you more gobby. It can decrease social awareness and it can lead to unnecessary problems.
You just have to stay as realistic but as positive as you can.
I have a bizarre amount of confusing analogies, but I will try this one.
At 1st, it is like an explosion. Energy is flying all over the place and at a high frequency. Emotions are running wild. It can also be described as being a bit of a careless twat.
Eventually, those emotions very gradually settle and calm. It goes from gamma ray...but then, after some time, to a less crazy energetic light wave.
Before last Wednesday, I hadn't done a day's work since the 18th of July. I was also institualised and I was at times, behaving in a very stupid way.
When I reflect upon my mentality about 3-5 months ago. It is not the same person. That man was not really from planet earth.
If a loved one is going through a really tough time that they have minimal control over. All I can say is.
Stick with them. Forgive them. Listen to them say mad things....but carefully correct them. Don't allow them to slip away mentally. Be nice but also keep them in the real world. The good side of the real world.
Whatever you say or do. It might not feel like it's working. It might be really draining...but...they need you. Hopefully, you also need them.
I have received great help from family friends and professionals.
I consider it likely that I will go to the game on Saturday and I really look forward to this one.
If anyone has any issues of any kind and all you want to do is just talk.
Send me an inbox if you want and I will definitely offer an honest viewpoint and try to help.
Never allow yourself to be lonely and always try your best in order to give yourself a better tomorrow.
Thankfully, I have never had to face the gruelling experience that you have faced AND come out the other side.
Total respect to you for admitting that you may have turned into a " bit of a nightmeire" ( not your words) during this horrendous time for both yourself & your nearest & dearest. But they know it wasn't the real you but a very frightened Dave.
I'm pretty certain that others in a similar situation will be able to recognise themselves....
Beyond a shadow of doubt, you are strong enough now to put all this behind you and think only of the future.
I'm sure all Lifers will wish you well & salute you for your bravery & honesty today.
Thankfully, I have never had to face the gruelling experience that you have faced AND come out the other side.
Total respect to you for admitting that you may have turned into a " bit of a nightmeire" ( not your words) during this horrendous time for both yourself & your nearest & dearest. But they know it wasn't the real you but a very frightened Dave.
I'm pretty certain that others in a similar situation will be able to recognise themselves....
Beyond a shadow of doubt, you are strong enough now to put all this behind you and think only of the future.
I'm sure all Lifers will wish you well & salute you for your bravery & honesty today.
Pleased to hear things are looking up for you Dave. I hope you can get to the game tomorrow, and it's an enjoyable experience, although I'm not sure it'll do wonders for your blood pressure :-)
Delighted to read your latest news, @Dave2l, and I hope your reintegration into the world of work continues to go well.
One step at a time, and hopefully all in a forwards direction!
Not one of us on here envies you what you have gone through, but I join others in hoping you have seen the back of this problem and have a long, healthy and enjoyable life ahead of you.
One thing which will not leave you is the knowledge of the support you have received from so many family, friends and professionals, and it will probably colour your future relationships through the empathy you will feel for others going through difficult times.
Meanwhile, I hope you got to the match and had a great time.
Delighted to read your latest news, @Dave2l, and I hope your reintegration into the world of work continues to go well.
One step at a time, and hopefully all in a forwards direction!
Not one of us on here envies you what you have gone through, but I join others in hoping you have seen the back of this problem and have a long, healthy and enjoyable life ahead of you.
One thing which will not leave you is the knowledge of the support you have received from so many family, friends and professionals, and it will probably colour your future relationships through the empathy you will feel for others going through difficult times.
Meanwhile, I hope you got to the match and had a great time.
Quite a strange feeling. I managed to have brain surgery and I'm now quite close to being fully recovered. When I take my head bandage off...I'm not really sure what my skull shape is really and truly going to look like. Might need to grow my hair a bit longer...
It's been a strange last 16+months. Just randomly getting an illness that I had never heard of before. I then start behaving in a bit of a strange way. The memory of it all is a little bit baffling. It certainly really isn't much of who or what I was. It took me ages to get back to close enough to normal again.
Theres too much to say and it will end up being a bit too long.
This is a message I wrote about the illness. Let me know if it has any relevance to yourself or.you have any questions. Cheers....and all the best🙂
Really pleased that you've had the op and all seems to have gone well, because I remember when it was first mooted that you weren't sure whether you wanted to have it or not. As for how you're skull's going to end up looking, it's really early days yet, you don't know how it's going to heal up. And let's face it, most people have slightly odd shaped heads, lots of people have scars of various kinds, and they're often far less noticeable to the rest of us than you'd think.
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Some positive things have happened for myself and I returned to work last Wednesday. It has felt like a big step in the right direction.
I just want to offer some nice words and hope I can be of value to anyone that reads this.
I think a lot of people may have experienced some form of serious injury to themselves, or something particularly bad may have happened to family member and or a close one.
I can only speak from my own personal experience.
It is very hard for everyone. It is awful.
It can be a long long road back.
I certainly have not had the worst injury in the world. It still isn't over....but I think and I believe that I'm going to eventually be ok. I have enough reason to believe this.
There are worse things that can happen.
The odds are also in my favour now to make a complete and full recovery. Anxiety has trebled...but it is slowly decreasing and it's starting to fade away.
Mentally, there is a lot of negative residue that is still a bit hard to wipe off.
Being in these kind of states can scare the absolute hell out of you. It can make you irrational. It can make you more gobby. It can decrease social awareness and it can lead to unnecessary problems.
You just have to stay as realistic but as positive as you can.
I have a bizarre amount of confusing analogies, but I will try this one.
At 1st, it is like an explosion. Energy is flying all over the place and at a high frequency. Emotions are running wild. It can also be described as being a bit of a careless twat.
Eventually, those emotions very gradually settle and calm. It goes from gamma ray...but then, after some time, to a less crazy energetic light wave.
Before last Wednesday, I hadn't done a day's work since the 18th of July. I was also institualised and I was at times, behaving in a very stupid way.
When I reflect upon my mentality about 3-5 months ago. It is not the same person. That man was not really from planet earth.
If a loved one is going through a really tough time that they have minimal control over. All I can say is.
Stick with them. Forgive them. Listen to them say mad things....but carefully correct them.
Don't allow them to slip away mentally. Be nice but also keep them in the real world. The good side of the real world.
Whatever you say or do. It might not feel like it's working. It might be really draining...but...they need you. Hopefully, you also need them.
I have received great help from family friends and professionals.
I consider it likely that I will go to the game on Saturday and I really look forward to this one.
If anyone has any issues of any kind and all you want to do is just talk.
Send me an inbox if you want and I will definitely offer an honest viewpoint and try to help.
Never allow yourself to be lonely and always try your best in order to give yourself a better tomorrow.
What a fantastic post, @Dave2l !
Thankfully, I have never had to face the gruelling experience that you have faced AND come out the other side.
Total respect to you for admitting that you may have turned into a " bit of a nightmeire" ( not your words) during this horrendous time for both yourself & your nearest & dearest. But they know it wasn't the real you but a very frightened Dave.
I'm pretty certain that others in a similar situation will be able to recognise themselves....
Beyond a shadow of doubt, you are strong enough now to put all this behind you and think only of the future.
I'm sure all Lifers will wish you well & salute you for your bravery & honesty today.
Onwards & upwards, dear fellow Addick.
One step at a time, and hopefully all in a forwards direction!
Not one of us on here envies you what you have gone through, but I join others in hoping you have seen the back of this problem and have a long, healthy and enjoyable life ahead of you.
One thing which will not leave you is the knowledge of the support you have received from so many family, friends and professionals, and it will probably colour your future relationships through the empathy you will feel for others going through difficult times.
Meanwhile, I hope you got to the match and had a great time.
It's been a strange last 16+months. Just randomly getting an illness that I had never heard of before.
I then start behaving in a bit of a strange way. The memory of it all is a little bit baffling. It certainly really isn't much of who or what I was.
It took me ages to get back to close enough to normal again.
Theres too much to say and it will end up being a bit too long.
This is a message I wrote about the illness. Let me know if it has any relevance to yourself or.you have any questions.
Cheers....and all the best🙂
https://www.avmsurvivors.org/t/hi-im-a-new-member-here-i-have-avm-and-i-would-love-to-help-others-and-share-experiences/23025
If Charlton beat Millwall a couple of weeks ago...and Roland sold the club.
2019 would have been an extra special year 🙂