My dad told me about the news. My mum and Alice pass on their wishes to Dave and hope he is on the road to recovery. Really shocked to hear and glad he looks to have pulled through. Hope family and Jen are OK.
Tell him from me that I said Hi and to get well soon. He isn't missing much Charlton related at least...! I look forward to hearing the positive news that he's back at home and on the road to recovery.
Tell Dave to remember that we're the red army and we're wonnnnderrful!
Cheers everyone. I feel a lot better at the moment and should be on the road to recovery.
I currently feel like what happened to me has improved my general attitude towards life and it's actually quite nice after the rather shit side of it. I've still probably got another week or 2 in hospital.
My dad told me about the news. My mum and Alice pass on their wishes to Dave and hope he is on the road to recovery. Really shocked to hear and glad he looks to have pulled through. Hope family and Jen are OK.
Tell him from me that I said Hi and to get well soon. He isn't missing much Charlton related at least...! I look forward to hearing the positive news that he's back at home and on the road to recovery.
Tell Dave to remember that we're the red army and we're wonnnnderrful!
T
Great to hear from you Tom. You always make me laugh and hope your doing well. See ya down the valley.
I'm sort of hoping I've just got another week in hospital at the most.
Looking forward to seeing my old man @3blokes tommorow.
Going to keep it short and sweet as my head is not quite 100%, I don't want to talk a load of horseshit.
Hi Jon. Sending our best wishes to Dave. Through Sophie we know his mates have been visiting him and routing for him. He watched the Sweden game at our house with the lads, he was on good form that day..Get well soon Dave.
Glad to see him back on CL, his recovery from the point he was at last Friday has been incredible. It’s one day at a time. The amount of support he has had from friends and family has really helped, both us, his close family, and Dave, himself, to make a recovery at this stage of the process and I really appreciate the comments and efforts from everybody. Thank you.
I'm going Gravesend mini rehab centre tommorow via NHS for maybe 2/3 weeks ish I think.
My dad tried to remind me of general things the other day and I don't think I was very good at being on the ball. I've had a few tests and my memory is rather questionable at present.
After some standard questions, my dad asked... what happened between Sunderland and Charlton?..which showed a slightly more accurate positive side of my awarenesses. I gave the correct answer.
Obviously losing that game and the way we did, isn't the best thing in the world and almost quite a heartbreaker.
Everyone's been great and for me, it has personally reminded about how serious life can be. I hope I still have an appreciative lust for life after I'm out of hospital and i get more or less back to normal.
I was supposed to be going Australia on August 27th but I'm ok with staying in the UK for a while longer to be honest. Currently feel relieved and just want to connect with friends and family again.
My football brain needs a dose of reality and I look forward to seeing Charlton again..even though I'm rather forgetful at the moment to be honest...which is probably why I feel rather happy!
I do really want to go to a lot of games again this season... although I hope that isn't just one of those meaningless tempory thoughts that will easily change. I love my club!
Rather relieved I get to leave this place tommorow.
Excited to the point where I can't sleep.
Just want to say a big thanks to everyone for the support on here and nice words.
Great news Dave. Only just caught up with this thread. Just crawling into bed after an NHS night shift. Knowing we can make a difference to peoples lives is humbling for the staff too and it's mostly why we choose our careers. Get well soon.
I will give a mini update...as also to be frank I'm a little bit out of touch with the football side of things at the moment which is a shame, but I guess it is just life.
I've been in a rehab centre for almost 10 days now and it certainly has its ups and downs. They try and help you as much as they can and the staff are very lovely and caring people.
I do really want to get out of here and just return to my old life....but at the same time I'm being really well looked after here and I've got to appreciate it.
It's just quite a bizarely strange time for me and I've never felt so shockingly vunerable before. I'm getting better but it's still going to take more time.
My family and friends have been great and really supportive.
I have a strangely bad memory at the moment ( 28 years old) and to be honest I'm still a tiny bit scared and concerned regarding a few things about the future...but it's best not to think about it at the moment.
Only 13 out of a million people are born with the brain blood clot problem I have ...so if your going to do a bit of math (that is probably not very precise)..then that's roughly just 750 people in the UK that get this random and rather dangerous thing which usually shows itself between the age of 20-40.
My Dad came by earlier and really helped.
My memory is really bad so we kind of went a bit too far in attempting to attack that...and we read an educational book regarding the universe...but it was still really good and helpful. I actually learned and remembered some good things tonight. Things that I originally knew but forgot....and some completely knew things.
I do really want to give a shit about football again but to be completely honest, I'm not quite there yet.
This new weird life is currently the only thing on my plate at the moment...and it's a bit of a fight.
I think I'm going home in September and then I have an operation.
I'm rather used to it all now and I do actually see myself as a rather lucky c*nt :-) based on the timing...for sure. It happened just after the World Cup!
I will give a mini update...as also to be frank I'm a little bit out of touch with the football side of things at the moment which is a shame, but I guess it is just life.
I've been in a rehab centre for almost 10 days now and it certainly has its ups and downs. They try and help you as much as they can and the staff are very lovely and caring people.
I do really want to get out of here and just return to my old life....but at the same time I'm being really well looked after here and I've got to appreciate it.
It's just quite a bizarely strange time for me and I've never felt so shockingly vunerable before. I'm getting better but it's still going to take more time.
My family and friends have been great and really supportive.
I have a strangely bad memory at the moment ( 28 years old) and to be honest I'm still a tiny bit scared and concerned regarding a few things about the future...but it's best not to think about it at the moment.
Only 13 out of a million people are born with the brain blood clot problem I have ...so if your going to do a bit of math (that is probably not very precise)..then that's roughly just 750 people in the UK that get this random and rather dangerous thing which usually shows itself between the age of 20-40.
My Dad came by earlier and really helped.
My memory is really bad so we kind of went a bit too far in attempting to attack that...and we read an educational book regarding the universe...but it was still really good and helpful. I actually learned and remembered some good things tonight. Things that I originally knew but forgot....and some completely knew things.
I do really want to give a shit about football again but to be completely honest, I'm not quite there yet.
This new weird life is currently the only thing on my plate at the moment...and it's a bit of a fight.
I think I'm going home in September and then I have an operation.
I'm rather used to it all now and I do actually see myself as a rather lucky c*nt :-) based on the timing...for sure. It happened just after the World Cup!
Hi Dave good to hear from you again mate and see you on here.
Spoke to my dad today and asked about you. He said you're making some good steps forward. Keep going, stay positive and don't be too hard on yourself. You are stronger than you know.
On a positive note you're not missing much football wise!
Looking forward to catching up again in the not too distant future, hopefully at The Valley, without Roland!
Missed this thread somehow first time round. All the very best with your recovery @Dave2l and wishing much strength to all friends and family including @3blokes.
Dave, just a word of advice. Don't try to get your old life back, as that way frustration and disappointment are likely to lie, but instead work to build a new and hopefully better one. Work out what's important to you, and make those things your priority, and the old familiar "nice to have" stuff can wait until you're a lot better, though you may find that by that point you don't miss some of it anyway.
The good thing is you're still reasonably young, so the work to build new pathways to various memories is going to be easier than if you were twice your age, but it's still going to take a while. Be patient - even those of us who haven't had a brain injury sometimes have to go the long way round to retrieve certain bits of information, and the "it'll come to you later when you're thinking about something else entirely" thing is very common. If there are any tactics you can use to help you with recall or relearning stuff, no matter how silly they sound to other people, don't be afraid to use them. Certain smells, tunes or pictures can all be good for triggering recall, it's just a question of working out which ones will help you to do that.
Best of luck with the rehab and the op in September, and hopefully by the time you've recovered from that, the Charlton outlook will be looking a bit brighter too.
Hi Dave good to hear from you again mate and see you on here.
Spoke to my dad today and asked about you. He said you're making some good steps forward. Keep going, stay positive and don't be too hard on yourself. You are stronger than you know.
On a positive note you're not missing much football wise!
Looking forward to catching up again in the not too distant future, hopefully at The Valley, without Roland!
Dave, just a word of advice. Don't try to get your old life back, as that way frustration and disappointment are likely to lie, but instead work to build a new and hopefully better one. Work out what's important to you, and make those things your priority, and the old familiar "nice to have" stuff can wait until you're a lot better, though you may find that by that point you don't miss some of it anyway.
The good thing is you're still reasonably young, so the work to build new pathways to various memories is going to be easier than if you were twice your age, but it's still going to take a while. Be patient - even those of us who haven't had a brain injury sometimes have to go the long way round to retrieve certain bits of information, and the "it'll come to you later when you're thinking about something else entirely" thing is very common. If there are any tactics you can use to help you with recall or relearning stuff, no matter how silly they sound to other people, don't be afraid to use them. Certain smells, tunes or pictures can all be good for triggering recall, it's just a question of working out which ones will help you to do that.
Best of luck with the rehab and the op in September, and hopefully by the time you've recovered from that, the Charlton outlook will be looking a bit brighter too.
Very sobering read this. All the very best of luck to you Dave Two Litres, one day at a time, and if there is any way this community can be of any help to you then please say mate.
Dave has been able to give his own update to this a few posts above, but I just would like to add a few points too. Firstly thank you to everyone on here who put up a like or added a comment to this. I wasn’t sure at first whether to post this thread, because some things are simply just personal events and issues in life, and not always to be aired on a public forum. But I am really glad I did. I have read some truly compassionate and thoughtful threads on this site, and as well as paying tribute to the NHS staff who saved Dave’s life, I wanted to have something encouraging I could talk to Dave about as he was laying there recovering. And I hoped a thing like this thread would bring a smile to his face, and it did. and it showed him people out there were willing him on. But it has also helped me too. I was really struggling with the emotion of it for the first few days, till I told Dave when he was laying there half out of it that we both had to adopt the Alan Curbishley Approach To Medical Recovery - you can only play the way you’re facing and who you’re facing - meaning sometimes you just deal with where you are in the moment and only that - and that has become a sort of mantra, at least for me, and has helped me get a proper grip on the situation. And the comments and well wishes on here really helped kick that mindset along, so thank you. We still have a way to go. But Dave has made a truly remarkable recovery so far, better than he often realises, and day to day I can see small sustained improvements. Finally, the NHS staff I have encountered with this: truly remarkable people.
Really great to hear you're recovering well @Dave2l - don't worry about remembering the last 10 or so years of Charlton related info, I wouldn't bother if I were you!
All you need to know is that we won the historic People's Cup (haha), we got promoted once (and relegated thrice), Chris Powell came and went and although Johnnie Jackson's legs are gone his heart has always remained with us.
Good luck and don't push yourself too hard, you'll get there :-)
Was great to see Dave Lockwood this evening along with my old man. They both came along and I appreciate Dave being there. I think the last time I may have seen him was likely to be when Huddersfield beat Charlton 2-1 at the valley and Chris Powell was having a laugh and a natter with our staff via the post match press conference.
Guy Luzon was being weird and was trying to talk as though he's naturally an assertive miserable one word answer type Jose Mourinho twat after defeat ....
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My dad told me about the news. My mum and Alice pass on their wishes to Dave and hope he is on the road to recovery. Really shocked to hear and glad he looks to have pulled through. Hope family and Jen are OK.
Tell him from me that I said Hi and to get well soon. He isn't missing much Charlton related at least...!
I look forward to hearing the positive news that he's back at home and on the road to recovery.
Tell Dave to remember that we're the red army and we're wonnnnderrful!
T
I currently feel like what happened to me has improved my general attitude towards life and it's actually quite nice after the rather shit side of it. I've still probably got another week or 2 in hospital. Great to hear from you Tom. You always make me laugh and hope your doing well. See ya down the valley.
I'm sort of hoping I've just got another week in hospital at the most.
Looking forward to seeing my old man @3blokes tommorow.
Going to keep it short and sweet as my head is not quite 100%, I don't want to talk a load of horseshit.
Cheers everyone have a good weekend
It’s one day at a time.
The amount of support he has had from friends and family has really helped, both us, his close family, and Dave, himself, to make a recovery at this stage of the process and I really appreciate the comments and efforts from everybody.
Thank you.
My dad tried to remind me of general things the other day and I don't think I was very good at being on the ball. I've had a few tests and my memory is rather questionable at present.
After some standard questions, my dad asked... what happened between Sunderland and Charlton?..which showed a slightly more accurate positive side of my awarenesses. I gave the correct answer.
Obviously losing that game and the way we did, isn't the best thing in the world and almost quite a heartbreaker.
Everyone's been great and for me, it has personally reminded about how serious life can be.
I hope I still have an appreciative lust for life after I'm out of hospital and i get more or less back to normal.
I was supposed to be going Australia on August 27th but I'm ok with staying in the UK for a while longer to be honest. Currently feel relieved and just want to connect with friends and family again.
My football brain needs a dose of reality and I look forward to seeing Charlton again..even though I'm rather forgetful at the moment to be honest...which is probably why I feel rather happy!
I do really want to go to a lot of games again this season... although I hope that isn't just one of those meaningless tempory thoughts that will easily change. I love my club!
Rather relieved I get to leave this place tommorow.
Excited to the point where I can't sleep.
Just want to say a big thanks to everyone for the support on here and nice words.
Cheers
I've been in a rehab centre for almost 10 days now and it certainly has its ups and downs. They try and help you as much as they can and the staff are very lovely and caring people.
I do really want to get out of here and just return to my old life....but at the same time I'm being really well looked after here and I've got to appreciate it.
It's just quite a bizarely strange time for me and I've never felt so shockingly vunerable before. I'm getting better but it's still going to take more time.
My family and friends have been great and really supportive.
I have a strangely bad memory at the moment ( 28 years old) and to be honest I'm still a tiny bit scared and concerned regarding a few things about the future...but it's best not to think about it at the moment.
Only 13 out of a million people are born with the brain blood clot problem I have ...so if your going to do a bit of math (that is probably not very precise)..then that's roughly just 750 people in the UK that get this random and rather dangerous thing which usually shows itself between the age of 20-40.
My Dad came by earlier and really helped.
My memory is really bad so we kind of went a bit too far in attempting to attack that...and we read an educational book regarding the universe...but it was still really good and helpful. I actually learned and remembered some good things tonight. Things that I originally knew but forgot....and some completely knew things.
I do really want to give a shit about football again but to be completely honest, I'm not quite there yet.
This new weird life is currently the only thing on my plate at the moment...and it's a bit of a fight.
I think I'm going home in September and then I have an operation.
I'm rather used to it all now and I do actually see myself as a rather lucky c*nt :-) based on the timing...for sure. It happened just after the World Cup!
Roland....please just fuck off
Dave
Hi Dave good to hear from you again mate and see you on here.
Spoke to my dad today and asked about you. He said you're making some good steps forward. Keep going, stay positive and don't be too hard on yourself. You are stronger than you know.
On a positive note you're not missing much football wise!
Looking forward to catching up again in the not too distant future, hopefully at The Valley, without Roland!
All the best pal.
T
The good thing is you're still reasonably young, so the work to build new pathways to various memories is going to be easier than if you were twice your age, but it's still going to take a while. Be patient - even those of us who haven't had a brain injury sometimes have to go the long way round to retrieve certain bits of information, and the "it'll come to you later when you're thinking about something else entirely" thing is very common. If there are any tactics you can use to help you with recall or relearning stuff, no matter how silly they sound to other people, don't be afraid to use them. Certain smells, tunes or pictures can all be good for triggering recall, it's just a question of working out which ones will help you to do that.
Best of luck with the rehab and the op in September, and hopefully by the time you've recovered from that, the Charlton outlook will be looking a bit brighter too.
I thought they were a type of tea bag
Firstly thank you to everyone on here who put up a like or added a comment to this. I wasn’t sure at first whether to post this thread, because some things are simply just personal events and issues in life, and not always to be aired on a public forum.
But I am really glad I did. I have read some truly compassionate and thoughtful threads on this site, and as well as paying tribute to the NHS staff who saved Dave’s life, I wanted to have something encouraging I could talk to Dave about as he was laying there recovering. And I hoped a thing like this thread would bring a smile to his face, and it did.
But it has also helped me too. I was really struggling with the emotion of it for the first few days, till I told Dave when he was laying there half out of it that we both had to adopt the Alan Curbishley Approach To Medical Recovery - you can only play the way you’re facing and who you’re facing - meaning sometimes you just deal with where you are in the moment and only that - and that has become a sort of mantra, at least for me, and has helped me get a proper grip on the situation.
And the comments and well wishes on here really helped kick that mindset along, so thank you.
We still have a way to go. But Dave has made a truly remarkable recovery so far, better than he often realises, and day to day I can see small sustained improvements.
Finally, the NHS staff I have encountered with this: truly remarkable people.
All you need to know is that we won the historic People's Cup (haha), we got promoted once (and relegated thrice), Chris Powell came and went and although Johnnie Jackson's legs are gone his heart has always remained with us.
Good luck and don't push yourself too hard, you'll get there :-)
Guy Luzon was being weird and was trying to talk as though he's naturally an assertive miserable one word answer type Jose Mourinho twat after defeat ....