Lil man is 10 months.... ex is very cleaver as she states in there that i cant have my 2 eldest children with me for the hourto build up the relationship with the baby. She knows i have my 2 eldest children every saturday morning and surely all 3 boys would want to know each other..
Im seeing a solicitor monday and ill have to get into serious money trouble to fight this evil witch!!
Still can afford a solicitor to fight this awful person but hey presto I have now received documentation from CSA for payments. This is despite her not letting me see him for the last 6 weeks..
Received another letter from her solicitor on same day saying I can see him every other saturday at DL from 10-11am, where I will meet her parents at poolside and give him back at the end.
Am i being unreasonable to go back and say no, as im not a member of DL anymore and I want longer unsupervised so he can spend time with his older brothers who I see 3 times a week and have a great father son relationship with?
Thoughts anyone??
Don't know the full ins and outs but she can't just stop you seeing the kids.
My sister tried this with her ex (who was and still is a manipulative wanker) and she got clobbered for it by CSA
cheers all... i know theres 2 sides to every story but for once im an innocent party and she has mummy and daddys money to do all this to me.... as i say i have 2 other boys who i see 3 times a week and worship me so i cant be a bad dad !!
You must hang in there and not give up, they will do all they can to make it difficult for you, at the same time hoping you will give up. Also I believe supervised visits are for if they suspect the child could be at risk, if this is not the case you can contest it.
You must hang in there and not give up, they will do all they can to make it difficult for you, at the same time hoping you will give up. Also I believe supervised visits are for if they suspect the child could be at risk, if this is not the case you can contest it.
Agreed.
This is exactly why Webbja77 needs a professional protecting his rights and interests. As was said earlier in the thread, once you start declining offers of time/visits etc - it will count against you.
Cheers all.... going to make sure I appoint one this week. The letter was dated the 16th, saying i could see him from the 24th but the psot mark on the envelope is the 26th.....
Webbja, as others have said you need proper legal advice on this. Although I definitely agree you shouldn't dismiss the proposed access out of hand, there's probably room for some negotiation but it needs to be handled carefully. Can her parents sign you into DL as a guest, even if you arrive at completely different times? To be honest, even if they can, given the acrimonious nature of the split, using a supervised contact centre is probably a better idea, as it means you have totally neutral ground and neutral 3rd party witnesses if she starts playing silly beggars.
Having time with the baby on his own is a probably a good idea to begin with, but you need to have the option to introduce him to the older kids at a later point, for the sake of practicality if nothing else. How old are they? If they're old enough to understand and your ex-wife agrees, a short term rejigging of your contact arrangements with them might help, but may be tricky to pull off without leaving them feeling pushed out or annoying her too.
I had to sit in a contact centre with my daughter who was seven at the time for well over a year,with nothing but some dusty toys ,i will never forget and never forgive,to much going for the women.
thats terrible mate... i know no matter what ill be fighting this woman for the rest of my life....why do women have so much power..... esp when she attacks me and walks out
The power is there, but only if you do not put up a fight, I fought and won custody of my daughter, so do not give up. But a word of warning the legal fees can be frightening, although worth it in the end.
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Lil man is 10 months.... ex is very cleaver as she states in there that i cant have my 2 eldest children with me for the hourto build up the relationship with the baby. She knows i have my 2 eldest children every saturday morning and surely all 3 boys would want to know each other..
Im seeing a solicitor monday and ill have to get into serious money trouble to fight this evil witch!!
Don't know the full ins and outs but she can't just stop you seeing the kids.
My sister tried this with her ex (who was and still is a manipulative wanker) and she got clobbered for it by CSA
Having time with the baby on his own is a probably a good idea to begin with, but you need to have the option to introduce him to the older kids at a later point, for the sake of practicality if nothing else. How old are they? If they're old enough to understand and your ex-wife agrees, a short term rejigging of your contact arrangements with them might help, but may be tricky to pull off without leaving them feeling pushed out or annoying her too.