Do not touch CWJ (Clark, Wright and Jakes) in Orpington with a barge pole. Incompetent fcuk wits, cost me a bloody fortune and let a very bitter taste in the mouth.
Good luck, you should get a free hour in the first instance :-)
Edit: My ex-wife's solicitors Stantons of Gravesend (Emma was the solicitor dealing with our case) were absolutely brilliant and we were excellent throughout. I'd recommend them to anyone and would use them again if I was ever in that situation again.
gibbons thanks for that... im seeing one tomorrow and ill mail you later in the week... its going to be messy i know but for once in my life im innocent and will fight for my soldier..
Wish you all the best mate,went through this about 15 years ago,spent nearly 15 years going through the courts bromley county court,high court mediation,my ex really dug her heels in and used my sons against me, i used to bring them all down the valley watching charlton,now they all support millwall,have not had much contact with them in the last 10 years,hopefully one day they will know that i tried my best to see them,i have three sons aged 20,19,and 16,the solictors i used are not there any more,the law society should be able to give you 3 solictors that deal with child care close to where you live,good luck dont give up.
Terrible mate,you could write a book on what ive been through,wont go into details,its happening all over,were not the only ones mate,i just feel for dads who have gone through that shit,not nice,
Thats how it gets you,you cant understand how it feels unless you have gone through that,it never gets any easier,you have to learn to come to terms with it,accept that this happens in life,my sons have all grown up now,you have to start thinking of number 1,My ex has re married,i have not remarried but iam excited about what the future holds for me i certainly live life to the full now,as they say this is not a rehearsal
I'm a solicitor but don't know much about family law. However can confirm that Fisher Meredith and Anthony Gold are both highly regarded firms in that field.
Cheers all for the support.. I already have 2 boys from my failed marriage but top play to my ex I see them 3 times a week and we all have season tickets.... They love their dad and CAFC... This one who walked out on me after attacking me and upsetting the 2 older boys is just an awful person....
As i say cheers for the support... anyone who knows me knows I wont lie down, I want all 3 of my boys to grow up together..
Chin up, Webbja ............... darkest hour before the dawn.
20 years ago I went through what you're now going through, with my ex-wife using our then 2 tiny children as pawns in her emotional warfare against me. She tried legally denying me access to the kids, but I won joint custody.
She wasn't going to give up that easily and planned to move all the way to Newcastle, where she had a close friend - she thought that distance would break the children's relationship with me. Unfortunately for her, the children rebelled.
My daughter said, "I'm not leaving my friends!" and stormed out of the room.
My then 8 year old son said, "I'm not leaving my Dad", and burst into tears.
"Go and live with your fucking father, then!" she screamed at him, flung some of his clothes in a carrier bag - and threw us both out. As a father I became a single parent, and my son lived with me for 15 years.
Take heart, Webbja .... life has a funny way of working out for you in the end.
Im in a pretty similar situation myself, and havent had access for over a month now. The irony is she claims she isnt denying me access, just that she's "busy" every weekend. I'm at the point of having to take legal action myself so this thread couldnt have come at a better time.
Cheers all for the support. I need to explore all channels ESP as I'm so skint but I won't give up In the meantime I've got 2 other wonderful boys who keep me sane and stops me going crazy!!
I don't think Robbo on the wing thinks that at all gibbons, I think he was just having a fun dig at your appalling spelling and lack of punctuation which makes your comments very hard work to read
Still can afford a solicitor to fight this awful person but hey presto I have now received documentation from CSA for payments. This is despite her not letting me see him for the last 6 weeks..
Received another letter from her solicitor on same day saying I can see him every other saturday at DL from 10-11am, where I will meet her parents at poolside and give him back at the end.
Am i being unreasonable to go back and say no, as im not a member of DL anymore and I want longer unsupervised so he can spend time with his older brothers who I see 3 times a week and have a great father son relationship with?
You cannot say 'no'. Never say 'no'. You must take any time you get with him, whilst you are taking that time keep asking for more but if you don't take it she'll use it against you and say you were given the opportunity to see him and you turned it down.
CSA is not a payment in exchange for seeing your child, it is a payment because it is your child. As for the amount of access you should be allowed I agree with Sadie that you should never turn it down but as for how much you can expect depends entirely on the background of your situation, which we do not know.
You must get a solicitor to have these conversations for you and protect your best interests.
There is no reason why she should dictate the exact location of your access to the child.
You can get a 30 minutes solicitor consultation for a fiver in Welling. It may be worth it to find out exactly how you stand with various bits and pieces.
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Good luck, you should get a free hour in the first instance :-)
Edit: My ex-wife's solicitors Stantons of Gravesend (Emma was the solicitor dealing with our case) were absolutely brilliant and we were excellent throughout. I'd recommend them to anyone and would use them again if I was ever in that situation again.
chris atkinson of philip ross and partners 0207 636 6969
Good luck. Can't imagine anything else.
I'm a solicitor but don't know much about family law. However can confirm that Fisher Meredith and Anthony Gold are both highly regarded firms in that field.
Cheers all for the support.. I already have 2 boys from my failed marriage but top play to my ex I see them 3 times a week and we all have season tickets.... They love their dad and CAFC... This one who walked out on me after attacking me and upsetting the 2 older boys is just an awful person....
As i say cheers for the support... anyone who knows me knows I wont lie down, I want all 3 of my boys to grow up together..
20 years ago I went through what you're now going through, with my ex-wife using our then 2 tiny children as pawns in her emotional warfare against me. She tried legally denying me access to the kids, but I won joint custody.
She wasn't going to give up that easily and planned to move all the way to Newcastle, where she had a close friend - she thought that distance would break the children's relationship with me. Unfortunately for her, the children rebelled.
My daughter said, "I'm not leaving my friends!" and stormed out of the room.
My then 8 year old son said, "I'm not leaving my Dad", and burst into tears.
"Go and live with your fucking father, then!" she screamed at him, flung some of his clothes in a carrier bag - and threw us both out.
As a father I became a single parent, and my son lived with me for 15 years.
Take heart, Webbja .... life has a funny way of working out for you in the end.
but I won't give up
In the meantime I've got 2 other wonderful boys who keep me sane and stops me going crazy!!
I'd buy four.
Update all....
Still can afford a solicitor to fight this awful person but hey presto I have now received documentation from CSA for payments. This is despite her not letting me see him for the last 6 weeks..
Received another letter from her solicitor on same day saying I can see him every other saturday at DL from 10-11am, where I will meet her parents at poolside and give him back at the end.
Am i being unreasonable to go back and say no, as im not a member of DL anymore and I want longer unsupervised so he can spend time with his older brothers who I see 3 times a week and have a great father son relationship with?
Thoughts anyone??
CSA is not a payment in exchange for seeing your child, it is a payment because it is your child. As for the amount of access you should be allowed I agree with Sadie that you should never turn it down but as for how much you can expect depends entirely on the background of your situation, which we do not know.