A few years ago my mum came to live with us. Over the next two years the relationship deteriorated as she disapproved over how my wife and I raised our daughter, maintained the house etc. Most of the negativity was directed towards my wife.
I guess my mum had a traditional view of a family life. Dad at work. Mum at home etc. However our way of living was different, we both work(ed) shared household duties etc. It all ended with a full blown argument where I had to make a choice wife or mum. The choice was not difficult and mum moved out a short while later.
My mother in law has been living with us for nine years now. It’s not easy but for our situation it was the best option for us. I still think that although it is very testing at times. Funnily enough my wife argues with her Mum far more than I do. I tend to stay out of it as far as I can. It’s not ideal but it is what it is.
Say to your Mrs that it's you or her mum has gotta go. Give her no more that 2 seconds to answer and just storm out. The very least you'll get is a weekend on the piss and you might find the mother in law gone when you get home early hours of Monday
I am stuck living with a mother in law who is so rude. Help.
Not enough info to be able to give any meaningful advice I'm afraid l. However, you'll get plenty of mother-in-law jokes and people telling you of their own woes.
I’ve lived with mine since my son was born, which is fairly common in this part of China, luckily her Chinese isn’t perfect so I often resort to “I don’t understand, sorry”
I sometimes have to let out my frustration in English which she absolutely doesn’t understand, there was quite an awkward evening when my wife got in from a dinner with friends and our son was running around screaming “old hag, old hag”
I’ve lived with mine since my son was born, which is fairly common in this part of China, luckily her Chinese isn’t perfect so I often resort to “I don’t understand, sorry”
I sometimes have to let out my frustration in English which she absolutely doesn’t understand, there was quite an awkward evening when my wife got in from a dinner with friends and our son was running around screaming “old hag, old hag”
Whats her first language if she doesnt speak great Chinese or English? - Cantonese?
Yizu, which is the language of her ethnic minority, she can speak Chinese, but almost always speaks the local dialect, which is quite hard for me, I can communicate with her, just sometimes choose not to.
Yizu, which is the language of her ethnic minority, she can speak Chinese, but almost always speaks the local dialect, which is quite hard for me, I can communicate with her, just sometimes choose not to.
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I guess my mum had a traditional view of a family life. Dad at work. Mum at home etc. However our way of living was different, we both work(ed) shared household duties etc.
It all ended with a full blown argument where I had to make a choice wife or mum. The choice was not difficult and mum moved out a short while later.
But funnily enough my mother in law is awesome. Before my mum died she told her she would look out for me and she does just that.
She also isn’t unwilling to tell my wife she is being out of line if she has to.
Guess I’m lucky.
'You're lucky, mine is still alive'.
I found getting divorced helped.
I sometimes have to let out my frustration in English which she absolutely doesn’t understand, there was quite an awkward evening when my wife got in from a dinner with friends and our son was running around screaming “old hag, old hag”