I'm sorry to do this, because I think it will make me sound like a bit of a jerk. But I want to clear up the use of the term 'sour grapes'.
In the fable of The Fox & The Grapes, the fox is trying to get some grapes, but they are too high for him to reach. Thus, he sulks off saying "It doesn't matter, the grapes were probably sour anyway." So when somebody displays 'sour grapes', it ought to be that they are trying to diminish the value of what they cannot have. They are not simply being sore losers.
For example, when fans of a Sheffield club come on and say "Your team are rubbish, you only won because you cheated, we should have had the 3 points, blah blah blah", that is being a bad loser, by all accounts. It is not, however, a display of sour grapes. Sour grapes would be if they said something like "Only jerks get 3 points for winning" or "We didn't want to win the league anyway".
Likewise, me starting this thread may well be a pointless display of pedantry, but it isn't sour grapes over the use of the expression.
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No one said it last season........I think its a rubbish phrase.
In the same way, losing fans will grumble (sometimes seriously, sometimes lightheartedly) about stuff. Usually those grumbles are about the other team or the ref because it doesn't make sense to knock the competition itself. Unless it's, "FA Cup, who gives..."
I love threads like this. Naval gazing at it's best! "
Why bring up watching ships? That has nothing to do with cognitive dis.sonance
- when fans of a Sheffield club come on and say "Your team are rubbish, you only won because you cheated, we should have had the 3 points they are trying to diminish the value of our celebrations/ and our win.
So it is sour grapes. Same thing innit?
If they said, 'well done you played better than us and deserves the win', that is acceptance.
To say 'You only won because you cheated' is an attempt to dimish the value of the win, implying that winning by cheating is somehow less than winning by merit and in turn they would themselves rather have lost (or not eaten the grapes) than won how we did (eaten grapes that are sour).
Therfore - clearly - sour grapes.
And Stig, I stick by my taking a narrow view of the fable - there are well over 100 of them, so surely there's got to be one for each specific way that someone can be a jerk... right?
They hadn't realised the haddock had already knocked the grapes out the tree into the river before swimming off with them...